Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough

Now, I don't want to lose you, but I don't want to use you
just to have somebody by my side.
And I don't want to hate you,
I don't want to take you, but I don't want to be the one to cry.

And that don't really matter to anyone anymore.
But like a fool I keep losing my place
and I keep seeing you walk through that door.

(Chorus)

But there's a danger in loving somebody too much,
and it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust.
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes, love just aint enough.

Now, I could never change you, I don't want to blame you.
Baby, you don't have to take the fall.
Yes, I may have hurt you, but I did not desert you.
Maybe I just want to have it all.

It makes a sound like thunder, it makes me feel like rain.
And like a fool who will never see the truth,
I keep thinking something's gonna change.

(Chorus)

And there's no way home, when it's late at night and you're all alone.
Are there things that you wanted to say?
And do you feel me beside you in your bed,
there beside you, where I used to lay?

And there's a danger in loving somebody too much,
and it's sad when you know it's your heart they can't touch.
There's a reason why people don't stay who they are.
Baby, sometimes, love just ain't enough.

Baby, sometimes, love... it just ain't enough.
Oh, Oh, Oh, No.

Kegetiranku...

While indulging dark chocolates with Almond and Mint Chocs, here i am writing my heart out to the mute screen and ever always available to receive any downpour or jolly good stuff.

The chocolate taste is good. Its a theraphy for emotional attack. For those whose dieting or watching the weight would not indulge in having this sinful therapy. Since my car are not allowing me to drive far away from here hence i have to just make do with whatever i can.


"Tidak bersyukurkah aku kerana tidak mahu menerima atau memahami?" Besties is pouring what ever she felt since last Friday. Now i hear only good things about her and him. Im glad when she is happy. Not wanting her to go back to her past and keep on telling her not to compare but enjoy whatever she has now while she can.

If for me i will have the benchmark of the odd numbers of months and then years and so on. Skeptical aye??? Yeah, i am. I wont deny me...

Its good to have some one who understands you very much on work, life and future. Although very much you have to be alarmed at all time as all we have are temporary.

Mine are very much stagnant as I always said. "If you don't change, I will!" And so i would not wait so much for him to call, to ask or rather to concern of my daily behaviour. Hey, for the past 6 years i am a survivor cant i not be still?

Hearing my conversation again with my new confidante.
"Orang akan rimas dengan emotional tantrum you or if you dont let people know, how would people understand you?"

Sebagai kawan atau kekasih,perlukah kita menyusahkan mereka. Ketika aku susah hati atau terlalu terdesak, segalanya akan tersungkam didalam dada sehingga terasa amat berat sekali. Namun untuk meluahkan ketika itu amat payah.

Yes, last week i managed to detach my mind from all of my friends who used to look after me. For once i tried and i am successful in doing it so much to know my ability to have them with me along with the situation.

Yes, i was so broken hearted with my family, my love ones but i did not even told anyone there n then. My children saw my eyes was glistening with tears. "Akak sygkan ibu"

She caught me pouring when she call almost midnite, i ask her why she took so long to reach me when i forgot that i have detach that emotional and mind bondage earlier. She always hear my heart out whenever i need her she would always be on the other end asking "are you ok"

Not just her few other girlfriends, yes thats the one thing i can do. Just call them from my end in the mind and they will come to line in few seconds. But never i took that opportunity to use my fren to my advantage. Never... Ill do it for the best of them to have the specialities of connecting with people.

Another question is "perlukah aku berteman?"
"Perlukah aku mempunyai lelaki didalam hidupku hanya kerana ingin memenuhi kekurangannya dan juga keperluan dirinya"

Benarkah kekurangan diriku itu akan menghimpit dan menyusahkan orang lain. Kerana itu aku tidak pernah berkejar kerumah mak kalau aku susah hati atau dihimpit masalah kewangan. Anak2 akan faham bila kalanya aku tidak ada. Aku pastikan anak2 aku cukup makan walau hanya dengan telur goreng dan kicap. Tidak juga berada di sekeliling teman2 yang lain.

Aku akan mengelak diri dari sebarang kegiatan luar rumah pada masa2 aku getir. Tahap2 kritikal amat hampir tetapi aku tetap tersenyum dan bersyukur. Semuga allah sentiasa mendengar kata hati aku walau aku bukan hambanya yang soleh namun aku akan sentiasa ingat akan DIRINYA.

Namun selagi ingatan terhadapnya tak putus selagi itu tidak akan putus pertolongan DARINYA. Cuma aku ada masalah dengan sesama insan untuk meminta kerana harga diri! Sedangkan aku tahu aku masih kuat lagi dan mampu untuk menanggung dan bekerja mengapa aku harus menyusahkan mereka sedangkan aku tak tahu sejauh mana kesusahan mereka pula.

SALAH KAH AKU?

Three things in Life...

Three things in life once gone never come back........
1. Words. 2. Opportunity.
3. Time.

Three things in life are never sure.
1. Dreams.
2. Success.
3. Fortune.

Three things in life that make you a great person.
1. Hard Work.
2. Sincerity.
3. Success.

Three things in life are most valuable..
1. Love.
2. Self respect.
3. Friends.

Three things in life must not be lost....
1. Peace
2. Hope
3. Honesty.

Three things in life that destroy a person...
1. Greed.
2. Pride.
3. Anger.

Bila Rasa Sudah Tiada

It was a very bz day yesterday. I was having good chat with some friends over chat and sms but not on the phone. The inner layer was soft but the outer was hard. Real cancerian with the mood swings.

Now i dont care much if he dont call or sms. Not needing to know whether i am needed or not. My last sms last night was "kekecilan hatiku adalah sangat kecil jika dibandingkan dengan kesedihan seorang isteri yang perlukan perhatian"

Siapalah aku, hanya orang ketiga yang tidak seharusnya berada disitu. Aku terlalu penat melayan karenah ingin yang mahu dilayani dan diladeni. Aku telah penat untuk memahami. Sekarang aku tak perlu sesiapa untuk memahami ku maupun aku untuk menyenangkan hati sesiapa.

I save so much in guarding my feelings and self. There is many around who trying to get their space their chances. Only thing i am keeping the space and queue accordingly. Now its open to everyone. As i always said "best man wins"

I remember someone saying "let ur openess of ur heart find it's destiny". And i know i have never been looking and i just make it open. The door to my heart is by making me see the action speaks than the words.

Progress are only number or time consumed to get the journey gets its destiny. I love a quote from Mike this morning "i think u r a friend with comandable character. I like u"

I was smiling all the way to my lunch. Having it not said also i know that my bitterness pull them away from me. I dont blame them and please dont blame me. Nothting that you do to glued me to you. No inspiration to have you tight beside me. Yes im craving for love n attention but im not a cheap bitch who will beg for love.

My place, my zone and my den are so cozy that i dont need anyone anymore till further notice. The adorable faces i always wanted to be with was my kids who always awaits for my home coming daily... God dont shove the love away from me just yet... let me have June to decide then may be you can give me

Capricorns

Capricorn, the tenth Sign of the Zodiac, is all about hard work. Those born under this Sign are more than happy to put in a full day at the office, realizing that it will likely take a lot of those days to get to the top. That's no problem, since Capricorns are both ambitious and determined: they will get there. Life is one big project for these folks, and they adapt to this by adopting a businesslike approach to most everything they do. Capricorns are practical as well, taking things one step at a time and being as realistic and pragmatic as possible. The Capricorn-born are extremely dedicated to their goals, almost to the point of stubbornness. Boy, those victories sure smell sweet, though, and that thought alone will keep Capricorns going.

The Goat symbolizes Capricorns, and an apt mascot it is. Goats love to climb to the top of the mountain, where the air is clear and fresh. In much the same way, Capricorns want to get to the top of their chosen field so that they can reap the benefits of success; namely fame, prestige and money. Getting to the top isn't always a walk in the park, however, so it's likely that Goats will ruffle a few feathers along the way. These folks can indeed be domineering, even egotistical, on their route to the top. They'll tell you it's part of being a leader with bright new ideas (in keeping with the Cardinal Quality assigned to this Sign).

Capricorns are industrious, efficient, organized and won't make a lot of waves. They are scrupulous with details and adopt a rather conventional posture in business and in life. These folks feel best playing it safe, since this is a fail-safe way to get to the top -- eventually.

Thankfully, Capricorns are patient, too, and are happy to wait for their ship to come in. The flip side to this staid behavior is that Goats can become quite unforgiving of those who aren't as diligent or ambitious as they are. Capricorns need to remember that they do need allies along the way, ambitious or otherwise. In any case, once Capricorns receive the recognition and social status they so fervently crave, it's likely that all will be forgiven.

Cancerian

Cancer, the fourth Sign of the Zodiac, is all about home. Those born under this Sign are 'roots' kinds of people and take great pleasure in the comforts of home and family. Cancers are maternal, domestic and love to nurture others. More than likely, their family will be large, too -- the more, the merrier! Cancers will certainly be merry if their home life is serene and harmonious. Traditions are upheld with great zest in a Cancer's household, since these folks prize family history and love communal activities. They also tend to be patriotic, waving the flag whenever possible. A Cancer's good memory is the basis for stories told around the dinner table, and don't be surprised if these folks get emotional about things. Those born under this Sign wear their heart on their sleeve, which is just fine by them.

The mascot of Cancerians is the Crab, and much like this shelled little critter, Cancerians are quick to retreat into their shells if it suits their mood. No wonder these folks are called crabby! For Cancer, it's not that big of a deal, though, since they consider this 'shell' a second home (and they do love home). The flip side of this hiding is that shell-bound Crabs are often quite moody. Further, in keeping with their difficulty in sharing their innermost feelings, it can become a Herculean task to pry a Crab out of its secret hiding place. What to do? Give the Crab time -- eventually these folks will come out to play again. When they do, they'll be the first to say so, in keeping with the Cardinal Quality attached to this Sign. It's said that Crabs are first to laugh and first to cry, so you can bet they'll fill you in.

That shell, by the way, isn't the only tough thing about Crabs. These folks are tenacious and strong-willed and like to get their way. If their well-documented kindness and gentleness doesn't do the trick, however, they're not above using emotional manipulation to make things happen. If that still doesn't work, they'll just go back to their shell and sulk, or find a way to get back at the source of their pain, since Crabs can be rather vindictive. That said, any self-respecting Crab would tell you that they are ultimately motivated by protecting their home and loved ones, a most noble goal.

Emotional and loving
Intuitive and imaginative
Shrewd and cautious
Protective and sympathetic

On the dark side
Changeable and moody
Overemotional and touchy
Clinging and unable to let go

Hunters

Male are hunters!!!!

The indecent proposal never stop. What do they look at a mother of 4. I remember when Din cant get back to me he come up with this "Who wants you? You are old!!! You are a women with 4 kids!!! Do you think man will like you"

I smile and walk away... Alhamdullillah... A challenge that i took that day are really sweet. It reminds me of him when the indecent proposer did not give up.

They know i never entertain those proposal, they know i will not turn up but they dont give up. What if i turn up, what if i accept it?

That will continue to be an "if" in my vocabs for now ...

Since I freed myself from a capsule of being little nice sweet me, since i dare my image in the mirror to be me, since i know what i am really looking at, that was the day i set myself free to be who I am. To have all the bad and weaknesses beaten and sliced. Although once a while i still have the old me but at least the fear is not as huge as before. What i am still lacking was confidence sometimes.

In terms of winning a man, i dont think i have to. I will only create problems as i know i wont be able to free myself so i may as well dont start.

Finally he gave up and send me a message to give my priority to my kids. Yes, and of course their my number one behind me. First of all when i address why he really wanted to see me yesterday was because he was lonely.

You have a wife, you have childrens who will make you lonely no more. Craze for attention i guess is more of the answer. If you dont ask for it, will you get it. Why do they find source instead of addressing matters. He almost married second time but when things dont work out his way he split.

Say for example i come to his way, enjoying every attention, care n pampering he gave, would my life be better? Would his be merrier?? More wives, more childrens... Hey wake up!!! More problems!!!

Because you come to me for an escapism. Running away from your loneliness, your attention crave and so on. I cant tolerate that. I want pure and simple love where you know what you want, accepting and appreciating what you do, what you want and so on...

Am i being emotional or being rationale here???? No one have the answer except me. One can judge me, read me, observe me but one dont know what am i really looking forward to. Because what i say and what i do may varies at certain time n occasion.

Be wise...

Life Path & Destiny....

A week ago i saw her heart fills of blossom but last sunday she told me she cant take it. Too nice, too complementing, too good to be true and too good to hurt her at the same time loving every minute of his attention.

Whatever strucks her affecting myself too. Looking at myself who has been in the same shoe for almost 3 years without looking any difference since the relation took place. What can we 'other woman' do to make them expedite the decision.

Nothing!!! and because of that slowly my trust and believability resides back to a corner of my heart. The hurt are almost have the same effect although you do it in the beginning. She is trying not to cry. She is trying not to fall and stumble because it was just started. But she is very brave to have taken that step to be rationale on the whole episode of life before it become worst.

As worst as mine...

Gem of the eyes, Jewel of the heart

Why do we get affected sometimes. Love strucks if we allow it travel from the eyes right through the heart. When the journey start, brain wont be functioning well. Mind and emotion dont speaks same language.

While we want to be rational it often end to be emotional. And most of the time we let emotions decide than the brain. While the brain is saying no and emotions doesn't let go, it hurts as much as someone just leave you abruptly without saying anything.

While reasoning sometimes takes place but emotions failed to address the matter correctly. It took a courage and willpower to address what loves got to do with it.

Ive been building my trust, comppasion and love towards men again since the fall. But i hardly found believability in finding the reasons where i need to love. What loves are all about?

Love is about giving without expecting any from the other. With that loves are sweeter than expected. How do we achieve in relationship? Indeed very subjective. We tend to love and yet get it in return to make sure what we give are in order felt.

Looking back of what had given to HIM 16 years back. 2 years being in love, 10 years living together loving him unconditionally, and 6 years leaving my live empty without a man doesnt means im out of love.

Fulfillment came from THE ALMIGHTHY giving all sorts of love i needed except man. Yes, he sent me one after another to love but in return i know i can only love but cant be loved the same way i did. When i put it a stop, when i let myself go, flowing with all the love given from family, friends, acquantaince n etc i am more happier. Why because im not expecting. When i expect the same im hurt.

Now a replacement which was build from a friendship is running on a stagnant mode. Im not wanting to have anything else now. Not even assurance that i one day will be married again. 6 years past with lots of consequences and sweetness, i am now a person who knows what i want most in life.

I can travell anytime i like, i can be with whom i like, i can read anything that catch my eyes, i can go out n listen to Shakira fast pace and sway along with the music i love to hear n relief my loneliness when it comes knocking. Yes, community are not happy the way i live my way but what the heck.

Although at time im hungry for attention and need someone just to pamper me but deep in me always alarming that attention might lead me to further kind of shit. And so i grab my car key driving alone in the midst of night finding my soul, my love and eternity. I know HE knows what i want, what i crave badly but perhaps the time has not arrived for me just yet. Patience that i build n keep has made me stronger and being survivor all this while.

Grasping my soul alone with the moonlight and starry nights always heals me, although i dont achieve anything but at least im counting the stars instead of sin. Im a human being, the craving needs hurting me day by day but at least HE hears me well. He drive me into an excellence escapade rather than being a zombie. If i cant find that in a man, at least i found that in my ownself. So i know that IM NOT ALWAYS ALONE...

He is always there for me when i need him. And to him who claimed to love me, you know words aint enuogh... I can say i love you million times but to affects you with my passion and compassion are hard. Bitterness thought me to be carefull always but vulnerability always bring me back to reality that im only human who will not runaway from mistakes.

Passion

I had made myself escape to Zeta Bar last weekend while Noelle was around in KL. 3 days on the go running around town and outskirts with her and the kids was fun and tiring. Despite building muscle on my thighs and legs i still can steal time to take a nap. Was too tired. Back wee hours and then chit chating non stop, next day drooling again.

Cant explain the kind of fun i had. It only reminds me few years back when it comes to Friday all of us was already pack n planned. Once i reached home, bathed then we start the journey. Its either a night in Melaka, PD, Seremban or whichever i feel like it. Kids has no objection to it. Infact they just enjoy the journey.

I have not been visiting clubs for quite sometime. I mean good one. Zeta has really offered me peace of mind when the singer was beautiful and energetic with the kind of music i love to hear and sway with. Friday night was just spend an hour when i was only offered limited time to show my face off there.

Saturday nite was where i am, with whom i am, and what i want to be. Music ease my heart away to the top. i dont care who the clubbers are. Although i found few eyes lurking around. While having good company as well as HIM around.

Musics of the ears ease the pain of the heart.

One thing i learn was Gem of the eyes and Jewel of the heart found. Ill will elaborate more on my next blog. I have to pack home. Lazy to go for Sheraton Subang as i need to be with my kids today. Need to addressed certain things.

My next Jakarta trip in the next two weeks and still comtemplating to accept the offer of GREAT SINGAPORE Sale in June. Lets just see after my Jakarta trip.

To you readers, read with open mind and window of the heart will decide should it still through and achieved while delivering.

;-)

JANGAN MENIKAH KERANA....

1. Jangan menikah karena harta :
Tidak ada gunanya hidup bergelimangan harta tanpa cinta. Harta dapat datang dan pergi setiap saat. "Cinta" yang sesat dan sesaat dapat diperoleh setiap saat, tapi cinta yang sejati tidak dapat dibeli dengan harta.

2. Jangan menikah karena perasaan asmara :
Rasa tertarik, simpati, naksir, yang merupakan asmara yang sering disalah artikan sebagai cinta. Asmara itu bukan cinta. Asmara dapat cepat berubah oleh rupa, harta, tempat dan keadaan. Asmara itu buta, tidak tahan lama dan tidak tahan uji. Cinta perlu diuji dalam suka dan duka dengan mata terbuka.

3. Jangan menikah karena rupa saja :
Kecantikan yang diluar memang indah, tapi dapat luntur termakan umur. Utamakanlah kecantikan yang di dalam.

4. Jangan menikah karena iba :
lba (rasa kasihan) memang baik dan harus ada dalam hidup kita, tapi tidak boleh menjadi dasar pemikahan. Kasihan dapat habis, tapi kasih tidak berkesudahan.Dasar pernikahan adalah kasih, bukan kasihan

5. Jangan menikah untuk kepuasan sex saja :
Memang sex suci dan penting dalam hubungan suami-istri, namun tidak boleh menjadi tujuan utama dari pemikahan. Sex hanyalah salah satu bagian dari pernikahan. Orang yang hanya mengejar kenikmatan sex akan kecewa dan terjerat oleh kesusahan yang diciptakannya sendiri.

6. Jangan menikah karena paksaan keluarga :
Seorang anak harus berbakti kepada keluarga, namun tidak boleh menyerah dalam hal nikah, kalau mereka memang salah dan anda benar. Berdoalah dan berikanlah penjelasan kepada mereka, jangan dengan kekerasan.

7. Jangan menikah karena desakan usia :
Bila usia sudah menjelang senja dan rekan-rekan sudah berpasangan, orang akan mulai gelisah (terutama pada wanita). Banyak orang akhimya "asal tabrak dan sikat." Hindarilah tindakan tersebut.Sabadah dan yakinilah bahwa Tuhan sudah menyediakan yang terbaik untuk anda. Jangan takut kehabisan jatah dan kadaluarsa.

8. Jangan menikah untuk membalas jasa :
Orang yang telah berbuat baik perlu dibalas, tapi jangan dengan pernikahan. Salah satu hal lain yang tidak boleh dilupakan, dan merupakan yang terpenting adalah jangan menikah tanpa pengertian dan persiapan dengan tindakan yang nyata.

Menikahlah menurut pola rencana Tuhan
Daripada salah dan mengundang derita, lebih baik tidak menikah.

Jika tidak diteguhkan oleh Tuhan. Karena Tuhanlah yang menciptakan manusia sepasang-sepasang.

Tanpa persetujuan Tuhan, tidak mungkin manusia dapat bersatu !

Self Values

How do we value ourself?? In accordance to what people think, in accordance to what our parents set for us or be it in accordance what you want in the first place.

Many of us forgets where to start first. Human tends to pleased others more in the first place than ownself. I did that before. It give me kind of satisfaction in me. What drives me in doing that? I don't know, perhaps when someone appreciate and feel happy of what we did that gives us sense of belonging and happiness.

But how long would we satisfied doing that and not having it the same way in return? Its like have a one way street, clapping with one hand and so on.

The secret of giving is never expecting a return. When expectation does not achieved it hurts ourself. At the end of the day we are being sulky.

I tried most of things i scare to do last time. Testing my strengths, patience, hatred and anger are not easy. Especially when you dont have anyone to turn to. I mean u can't shoot your friend with certain question. Like you cant ask ur husband about another man attitude, you cant ask your wife why her hands is so rough while the other lady you saw in the goldsmith shop is so smooth when you shop for her anniversary ring, and you cant ask your mom why cant she cook yummilicious like your indian neighbour.

Gathering few people thoughts about certain issue and reasoning why they think differently on the same issue makes me wonder sometimes. Why i can refuse many invitations but accepting one without objection. Why i can continue being friends or i can just ignored if they forgets. I will make few attempts to make them remember me. Once, twice, thrice and finally if theres no answer let them find me instead.

Life is more beautiful if you make it simpler. True at times i only look at it bitterly. Because i dont want to be in that shoe again. If im labelled without being analysed before further get to know session, i would just accept it.

At the end of the day people know how to make their own judgement.

Besties

I have a chance to go for a short trip to Jakarta last month. I was trying to get her to come with me for many times but it seems she is not interested to come. It was told to the other friends who always goes there on a good deal of fares. 4 of us went from 19th to 21st when she has something on. I was on a runnaway basis i guess when i took the offer.



Before that she send me a long email which invite my tears again of what she feels towards me, towards my action and towards the whole situation taken now. Ive been muting myself, ive been making a distance, ive been making an effort to heal myself without her noticing it.



But i know she is smart enough bcos we have been frens for more than 10 years. I know she feels me when im sobbing on my own. she always caught me crying when she is not suppose to call me that time. I believe god must have been nice to connect me with her in that way to make me smile and cheerful again.



I never want to question what i have done to her. Its very minimal to me The distant i made was to make her stronger n have more varieties of friend. With her i have grown my social networks, acquaintance, and good personal skills basically on self confidence.



She without fails always want me to look up myself high even we have differences in so many ways. Agree i cant find that quality in other friends. I cant elaborate more on that.



What makes me wanted to talk about this was because of my question last night. My last week conversation with her was highlighted in my centre of attention. Some one asked her that we have been friends for very long. Is there any chances of us liking the same person at the same time????



With that question i post her sms of her well being and when is her coming back from Swiss. Her answer continue after one another and the peak was "yes i like him bcause " "please refer next sms". From there i see her eyes glittering with joy, her heart jingling with music, flowers is blooming everywhere.



We were talking during the whole journey to KLIA about the same person. About her dinner, about the things they talked about. About how different he could be from some of them.

Perhaps when it comes to men subject we are very much sceptical about it. Why?????



From the sms ive gathered many things. After alarming my thoughts and view the danger of liking a same person. I told myself to back off. I myself dont understand why i am eargerly interested to know about the same person. When she told me that they are taking her to an occasion n taking me along, i straight away says yes. While she stil cant believe why i said yes n keep on repeating that i would back off last minute n etc.



I explained her some short n simple thoughts i have "nak keluar dengan org pun must kena dgn insticnt" Yeah, i dont simply accepted anyone invitation. Yes, im not choosy but the person must have some criteria and attention that create my temptation and i allow myself to know off. Personal trait i should say.



Now changing the interest to be more of a friend would be the best action i could do. By letting him know yesterday what makes me accepted the invitation was the first bold move ive ever done.



Yes, im known to be a bitter sweet person with thousand and one character. When other people are down n wanting others to help, I would rather be alone driving in a long drive, be on the beach letting the breeze slapping my face and blasting loud music to heal the pain im going through.



Why am i sceptical towards men, why am i bitter to any invitation of coffee tea or me issue. All the pain that i have are answerable to her. While no man can understand what woman want, there she is to sooth n calm one heart that shattered into pieces.



Now im hoping he can make her smile again while she is guarding her heart and he will make her mellow on the terms of accepting one man as and individual with their own specialities.



Yes, i do believe in that.

He has a blurry kind face that you cant predict what he is thinking but in writing a long message I already know that this person is passionate in what he is doing. (perhaps im wrong yeah) But its too early to comment further. I just want him to know he does catch my attention to know more of him, to understand his kind of manly behaviour and to be of his friend if i may have the chance.



But to my dearest friend i cant forgo more than i should have. I am thankful for the opportunity of this test and im thankful for i can accept it openly from the bottom of my heart. Yes, i want her to feel the happiness of having someone to understand her attitude, thinking and respecting her for who she is as a person.



Of all the girlfriends i have, no matter how hurt sometime her words slicing me, but she is still the nicest person i ever have in life. No, she does not know how much i appreciated her although she feels i neglected her when i was quiet in my space zone.

I never does that, she was never far away from my thoughts, its just that i want to heal the hurt i have towards her. No one understood what i have for her although i talked abt her sometime. Its hurting to know im not a good friend who doesnt know how to look after a nicest friend.



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On the personal self of mine, the walls n barrier that i created in my heart before are hacken down for awhile but suddenly it grows up again all of a sudden after the recent commotion at home. Yes i was down, yes i was hurt but one thing i am happy although it hurted so much that ive seen mother love finally flowing.



How much can a single parent hold on to community social issue. Knowing me going early morning and come back at night, how much time would i have for my children, friends, family and others? What about myself??? Yes, malays are very sceptical but why dont they think first before they talked about it, think about and act on itt?



Anyway, i still lead my life as usual. Yes, i managed to hide all the feelings deep inside me. I managed to burried every hurts ive carry for the sake of my children. i want them to know, i want mom to know, the reason i lived today was my kids, was her, was my dad as long as i can still walk with pride and dignity.



Yes, ive done mistake in life, yes, ive neglected myself, yes, ive neglected my feeling and now i want to live being happy on only what i think after i thought of it, after i share it with certain people that i want to and people that i value.



Love please dont leave me just as yet. I still need you love to love my kids, my family, my friends and my passion...



God help me

Amin

No String

I was posed with a question "what do u think of no strings attached relationship?"
So far my answer is always no. i dont believe in relations without feelings and emotions. That's not relationship. That is only way of an escapism to have someone to attend to you without understanding her feelings.

They want their needs and wants to be heard but they arent hearing what you want.

Why do they think women are cheap? Because some women shows that trait.

Repost from MySpace :Young, Single and Bachelor

Mood:Freaking Raunchy

“Daripada I beri you duit beli telefon, lebih baik I beri you duit beli cincin. Kita kawin lagi bagus luv”. I just laugh and stifle at the screen. He is still trying. He gave up once. When theres many outings in groups for drinks, snooker and music over pub. When one day I came with Zahar to one of our frens stalls in gombak, he kind of slowed down chatting with me and become quiet after that.
Well I told everyone very clear, im not looking for a mate, boyfriend or husband in net. I was just looking for friend and extending my networking. I don’t have hidden agenda. Im not an opportunist nor a seeker of one attention. You came knocking, I’ll welcome you. You have reason to be here? So do I, but my clear reason is stated. Besides that im an open book, and as clear as crystal. I have nothing to hide, nor looking for something to fill in the gap. Basically I have you as friend just to fill in the blanks, to tone down the stress due to my bz job and exchange views and opinion. Besides questioning to prove the survey we did is right on track. Which was always successful.
There will be many reason why I avoid young and bachelor male. Its not going to be fair to him, his parents or his future. I will age, I am a mother and I have commitment. I wont have all the time in the world to breed his children is one big reason. At this age considering about my health is more important. I know god knows better but its not wrong to consider his age and my age at this moment. He is at the peak of his sex life and im going to be menopause soon. When he is back like an adult to enjoy life and being successful, im already at the edge of waiting for time to perform my haj and waiting for my creator to invite me back in his den.
Next reason, being a mother of four will always taking all my time to fulfill their wants and needs. I would love to give them the best and will not consider to add another cluster to be divided amongst them. That fair enough or perhaps not now while they need the best attention of me. It’s a no no fullstop!! That’s my wish as for now.
My commitment to my children as I made the vow when I accepted my first marriage was to take care of the zuriat that given by HIM in my hand. That was carried by me for 9 months and 9 days. To be taken care of till the day they can manage themselves one day, insyaallah.
Many men came. Some are pure seeking for companion, some are just seeking for bed partner and some was just pure looking for friendship. I accept them as it is. But to be accepted in my life like Zahar was far away from my thoughts. How did I fall? How I take that in my box of life? I don’t know. I don’t wish to take the headache again of manipulating myself, life and mind to create a space, place and piece of heart for any at the moment.
Cant say anything much because god knows better for me tomorrow. HE granted one but he take it back. HE lend me one but just for a test he said and then HE decided its not suitable for me and HE send another woman for him. Now im glad that my ex has gotten himself a girlfriend which now means I can be his friend who listen or even talk to him like old days. As for the sake of our children we come to a mutual term that we talk should the subject need to be shared. Ive seen him smiling more sweeter while talking to me. That’s what I want. Not someone yelling, accusing or harassing. He has become the most handsome person I know 13 years ago again with his smile. I have run away from the first topic.
Back to my story, I am thinking fairly as his mother would rather have single female to be the partner of her son. Which can be shared of with them when they are old. To grant them many grandchildren if possible. Every mom would want the best for their children which I respect them. It same goes to my mom too. She has been different lately. More sensitive to what I feel and need. Im glad patience is always the key to succeed and god always listen if you ask HIM passionately. Im glad HE did. Alhamdullillah.
Or I have this in my raunchy mind since I was married. Why don’t my husband find another woman and marry her so that I have a space for myself sometime. He can spend his time with another woman of his choice and its legal. I did ask him to find one. But he refused. “I have you, why should I need another one”. I fulfill every needs that he want. I cater time, space and everything in between my bz time as a mother, daughter, friend, niece, employee and importantly as a wife.
In my tired day, I never failed to smile, laughed, giggled with my colleagues, friends, relative, childrens and him. Was I missing those days? Practically im still the same. Its just the lack of a husband. Other than that? None.
Widi make me laugh yesterday out of my sleepy mood. He was telling his experience in the hospital. Besides taking the pain he has live entertainment and we shared that last nite over tea and nasi lemak.
Nina was laughing non stop, but arip was so cool, perhaps he was tired. Chelli pulak giggling je. Hmmm missed out some one there. She is in penang for an assignment. I receive beautiful photos earlier from rose and reposted the “GIRLS DAY OUTING”. The colours of ME was really nice n turns out well.
Why aren’t us taking picture when the adventure explored. It will be next. Mind was raging with ideas of stomping my feet to Orchard road soon. Rom is tempting me to go with her. Besides those beautiful ladies is waiting to have me there. Would I then see many people on the street still. Would I be pissed to see them romping on the road? Im still thinking, I would just hop a bus from Melaka and get straight to Lion City. I missed Merlion on my first visit. I want to make sure Im gonna take pics from there. I have about S$800 still in hand which I hardly used on my first visit. 4 tshirts, 2 fridge magnet n some other few items. Not even S$200 finish.
Boss please grant me a leave. I want to please myself this time. Walking, rambling, wondering, taking pictures, meeting people and have hell out of fun. It would be fun for me. Rom cant wait for the answer. So do I. God please let me have this wish. Grant me another mercy please.
But deep in there an itch question, will I meet roslinah on the street. Shit! Whenever heart is saying something, im sure somehow it will be happening.
Im gonna ask boss again. I will have to go, and I want to make it happen. Suddenly the visual of the lingering eyes popping. With the smile of course. Argh go away mister sexy smile, I aint needing you here. But the memories are welcome. *sigh*.
The lingering eyes wont go. I have to go, so that the eyes will reside my bedside.
Tomorrow I will ramble about the married man decent proposal. Will I consider that? I will have to seek for an answer with Istikharah again. Insyaallah, will meet again friends. Till then, sweet dreams.

Mind Boggling

Sukarnya untuk menjadi diri sendirikan... kadang2 kita terpaksa menipu walaupun kita tak mahu demi menjaga hati orang keliling. Dah lama aku tak menanggis...

Aku tidak lagi merasa sedih. Aku sebenarnya bahagia. Ada insan yang melayan jiwaku dengan sabar. Dulu lawanku yang selalu buat kerenah tetapi sekarang aku... aku yang ingin merasakan kelainan... merasakan diri dilayan, disayang dan segala yang ku perlukan.

Cuma yang satu aku masih tetap disitu.......

School Holiday

Mood: Fresh

I was away since Sunday to the beach. The place i always long to be. I was feeling good to be back to the place that soothe and calm me emotionally and physically. I feel fresh, beautiful and radiant.

Simply because I got to cook for my children before we take off and take few things with us to eat during the outings.

Respect

Mood: Bitchy

How deep is your understanding when you say you know your best friend, girl friend or boy friend.

Some people claim they are a good friend to their friend but they can't give their advice and opinions. Respectful friends will listen and hear out the pro and cons but will decide according to what they feel and think. And as a good friend or someone close to her/ him would respect what ever her/ his decision taken by her/him.

"You are attracted to me Lyenna?" I was asked...
"I like you, attracted ermm... nope!"

"you dont have to be nice, just say it" he replied
"i just said what i feel, nothing more nor less"

and the conversation continues and make me feel cornered to the point i have to tell him.
"you know what, Ive been nice to you all this while becoz i care abt people feelings but now i have to tell you this.... "
"i hate being pushed and you are one of them, so with that excused given to you all this while was the answer of why i never agree to any date, appoinment or saying yes when R asked me to come for dinner with you"
"you want me to be blunt? There you go. I'll go or say yes to anyone i like or feel comfortable with and it depends on when and how my moods are"

They dont have to be handsome or pretty to be with me, they can enjoy all night long sharing tales and story if i feel i want to grant my precious time. But since you want me to follow and suit you i guess i have problems with that. Not just you! Its anyone.

I have my own priority and its my prerogative on how i should manage it. I know i've been running away. I dont mind making friends but i mind when that friends have something beyond. Im sorry i cant entertain that.

Relationship put me in a lots of difficulties and emotional swing. I just want the shortcuts or the highway which is long but smooth, meaning be friend but not emotion bondage. Scared, yes i am. Fall? Yes, i can easily because of my vulnerability. Hence, i avoid being in one. I just want what i want now. Nothing more, nothing less.

I am in a middle of something. I would just give myself few more months and then ill decide which path suits me best...

I know i want something to hold on but if that person cant open the umbrella wide then i cant force anything into his nor mine. I let the flow brings me where i should be. I wont be stressing myself again to hurt me. No more!

I just enjoy the attention, enjoy they pampering me, enjoy them being around me, but please dont come near, ill fly again like a bird. Once i get myself bored at certain place i'll fly again further or back to the same place i 've been. I like it, I stay longer, I dont, i'll move on again.

What stays?? Treasure of a friendship, you can be there for it then be there. You can't, you have a choice. Dont waste it. Yes life is short. I do it my way...

Reasons to love a Woman

Category: Life

You can feel her CARE in a form of a Sister
You can feel her WARMTH in a form of a Friend
You can feel her PASSION in a form of a Beloved
You can feel her DEDICATION in a form of a Wife
You can feel her DIVINITY in a form of a Mother
You can feel her BLESSINGS in a form of a Grandmother
Yet she is so Tough too...
Her heart is so Tender...
So Naughty...
So Charming...
So Sharing...
So Melodious...
She is a Woman...
She is Life...

RESPECT HER

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Pagi ni aku hangin seperti biasa bila janji tak ditepati. Tensen sungguh aku. Bila marah muka aku cemberut!!! Tak manis langsung. Dah jalan sikit baru aku ok. Dia seperti biasa nak gurau2.

aku ni kalau dah lambat jgn kata gurau, cakap pun tak nak. HANGIIIIIIINNNN satu badan. Bila perasaaan marah meluap, tuhan nak tunjukkan angin tu padaku pada dia, bedebuk aku jatuh atas jalan sebab brek mengejut dan minyak licin.

Kaki dia terseliuh, kulit tangan rabak and aku tangan dan pinggang sakit. Yang teruk dia laa.

Adoi sakitnya.HAMPEH tul. Kete yg brek mengejut didepan terus belah tak pandang belakang. mamat yg naik estima belakang kami ni keluar tolong angkat kami pembonceng dan penunggang ke tepi. siap tanya ok ke tak, nak i hantar u pg spital ke tak. dah yg bestnya dia ni bukan melayu yg keje eksekutif kat Philips. pada yang pandang memandang sambil lalu tu i memang respect dia anak melayu yg tinggi adat budi bahasa dari belakang mati kot.

Sungguh menyedihkan kerana aku tak boleh di belenggu amarah yang ekstrim. Jadi cacat tangan ku. Jam favourite aku calar. Tapi yang tak tahan tgk muka dia yg berkeriut tahan sakit.

Sapa suruh buat aku marah. Baru dua hari lepas buat hal, pagi ni buat lagi. Bukan aku tak pemaaf tapi mengulanggi perbuatan yg aku benci sungguh SENGGAL tau!!!

Big God!

although she is younger than me a few months but she has shown the strength of being big sister to me in terms of life, affection, love and other things.. I may be strong in having my life path lead as I am now while she is still struggling to find her way. But she has her strong wit to bring her to success accordingly. Her advice, her voice, her way sometimes goes deep into my brain, my heart. Its difficult to just put her away.

I may sometimes feels so low but she knows how to cheer me up, i may at times pull away from her because im sad, but she knows where to bring me up with what i likes and what to forgets. I hurts me for not being there for here.

Today she told me what she says to her boyfriend..."I told G, 2 of my best fren retract from me faraway when i said im leaving for Jakarta..."

I almost breakdown to tears but I hold it tight to myself not letting her know that its is painful to let her go, but thats what is making her happy then she deserve it in her life.

Yeah... I've been thinking about it.. Dulu belum kahwin, kita tak pernah sangka kita boleh ada 3-4 org anak. Now look at us. We end up having those little monsters that we cannot live without them now.

God will never give you something that you cannot handle / manage. Remember that. I always feel that you merendah diri unneccessarily (esp with me). Stand tall, walk proud. You are worthy as a person as I am. Nobody is better than anyone else or deserve to be happier than anyone else.

:-) your sis.

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VERY NICE AND TRUE!!!

Two men went fishing. One was an experienced fisherman, the other wasn't. Every time the experienced fisherman caught a big fish, he put it in his ice chest to keep it fresh. Whenever the inexperienced fisherman caught a big fish, he threw it back.


The experienced fisherman watched this go on all day and finally got tired of seeing the man waste good fish. "Why do you keep throwing back all the big fish you catch?" he asked.

The inexperienced fisherman replied, "I only have a small frying pan."


Sometimes, like that fisherman, we throwback the big plans, big dreams, big jobs, big opportunities that God gives us. Our faith is too small.

We laugh at that fisherman who didn't figure out that all he needed was a bigger frying pan, yet how ready are we to increase the size of our faith?


Whether it's a problem or a possibility, God will never give you anything bigger than you can handle. That means we can confidently walk into anything God brings our way.

REMEMBER:Stop telling God you've got big problems.Tell your problems you've got a BIG GOD!

Halal...

Banyak benda yang diragui sekarang berada dipasaran. Dimana letaknya haq seorang Islam dan kita sebagai pengguna. Dimana haq pemimpin untuk menjaga haq-haq masyarakat pengguna yang mana mereka sendiri adalah pengguna itu???


KUALA LUMPUR 19 Feb 2008: Timbalan Pengarah Jabatan Kebudayaan, Kesenian, Pelancongan dan Sukan, Dewan Bandaraya Kuala Lumpur (DBKL), Zainuddin Md Zin, semalam memfailkan saman kira-kira RM5 juta terhadap tiga pembekal dan penjual ayam, termasuk Tesco Stores (Malaya) Sdn Bhd kerana menjual ayam yang tidak disembelih. Zainuddin, 55, menamakan Perak Duck Food Industries Sdn Bhd, CKL Marketing Sdn Bhd dan Tesco sebagai defendan pertama, kedua dan ketiga dalam saman yang difailkan menerusi Tetuan M K Othman & Co di Pejabat Pendaftaran Mahkamah Tinggi Jalan Duta, di sini. Beliau dalam tuntutannya memohon ganti rugi am, ganti rugi teruk dan ganti rugi teladan yang bernilai RM5 juta kerana defendan pertama dan kedua berlaku khianat dengan membekalkan makanan berlogo halal kepada semua umat Islam. Di samping itu, beliau turut memohon mahkamah untuk menghalang ketiga-tiga defendan untuk menjual, mengedar, memasar atau menyebabkan produk itu berada di pasaran.
Plaintif juga meminta mahkamah mengarahkan ketiga-tiga defendan memohon maaf kepada semua umat Islam di negara ini berterusan selama tiga hari di muka hadapan akhbar utama bahasa Melayu dengan menanggung segala kos perbelanjaan. Dalam writ saman berkenaan, beliau juga mendakwa defendan pertama gagal memastikan keadaan ayam yang dihasilkan tidak disembelih mengikut Syara’ dan tidak prihatin serta sensitif kepada kehendak umat Islam. Defendan kedua pula didakwa secara cuai menyelia pengeluaran produk yang berlogo halal pada bungkusan itu, manakala defendan ketiga gagal melakukan sebarang pemeriksaan bagi memastikan keselamatan halal produk itu sebelum dipasarkan. “Pada 28 Oktober tahun lalu saya membeli tiga ayam selasih di Tesco dan mendapati ayam yang dilabelkan logo halal tidak disembelih dengan betul mengikut prosedur penyembelihan.
“Sangkaan saya ternyata betul apabila PPIM mengesahkan ayam yang dibeli tidak halal kerana urat leher ayam yang disembelih itu tidak putus,” katanya.

Reunion!!!

Mood: Fabulous

It happens on one fine nite last 2 weeks where my kids were out for simple dinner in Nasi Lemak Panas Desa Pandan in a corner between CIMB and Ampang Point Mall. I bump into Nona and Norjie who was my ex-schoolmate some 20 donkey years ago.

It was the beginning of the whole reunion happen last week 16 Feb. We have fabulous time, hillarious, and most of all after so long we meet again having the same old time with some extra baggage carried with us along. After karaoke we adjourn to KRB at Kosas RiverBank which was later I understand own by one of our frens brother. (erm i kene cari lokasi baru nak hangout with ehem2 ;-)). Then later to watch pocho-pocho dance in WangsaMaju. After sending few girls home we reside to Restaurant Maju in Kg Pandan for early breakfast.

But all in all we are having very good time till morning. Here are some pictures that i captured. We change numbers so that it wont end just there. Hopefully after this one, another gathering with more people coming.

Can't wait but patience will do good.

Here are some of the pix edited for all of you...

To JJ, Norjie, Jijah, Nita, Sham, Ita, Teh, Hani and especially for Nona yang menaja Karaoke, cake and to food contributor especially kacang so banyak one!!!! Thank you so much for bringing the events and memories of Convent Peel Road. Looking forward to more excitement with you again.

Valentines???

Current mood: crushed

Category: Romance and Relationships

Its Valentine today.
No one has ever affects me for the past 39 years I live. I dated my ex once in my lifetime for Valentine during our last last years of marriage. No flowers, no chocolate but expensive dinner yes. Once in lifetime thats it but it is sweet.

He dont appreciates dates, anniversaries, birthdays as I do but he make the effort to come and sit eye to eye with me enjoying looking others. Thats about it with him.

Today i received hand delivered roses and chocolates. I was taken by surprise, speechless altho he lied but he surprise me with sweet moment.

I dont have anything for you tho! Do i buy for him too??? Im supposed to be pleased right???

Passion

Mood : Creative

Something that I love to do but hardly have time for. During the holidays I managed to find time to be with my kids and bring them to places and taken pictures that I love to have. Not much to share but really makes me happy looking at it.

Not as gorgeous as the photographer did but thats my best piece.

Here it goes.

This is along my home area. Some greens captures my eyes gracefully n fulfill my earthy desire to potrait this in here.

Taken from my handphone. The visual reflected from the car window along Jalan Ampang towards Saloma

Along Jalan Istana on the way to KL

This is the new shopping complex in Bukit Tinggi Banting Klang. The long holidays giving me to the opportunity to marvel around outside KL on my retail therapy program. The huge shopping complex took the whole day of time to finish

Nah this blog is complete and im happy to see the colours here. It enhances today rainbow in my life. FULFILLED all my desire.

Kesesuaian

Current mood: fabulous

Mengapa sangat sunyi page ini sekarang?

Because my time is very limited, because i have only two hands to meddle. I have so much to write, to let out but im not complaining. Loving every minute of the job now and loving every minute the thing i do for my kids and family.

Love life?. Im in love? hhahahaha

Perking up and going down the tunnel. Up again to the highest mountain taking me to the rainbow and then pull down by the storm back to the hungry waves. But the bounciness is good. The more i goes up the more colours i saw, the deeper down me to earth showed me more creatures to appreciate.

To hell with my past, to hell with passers by, im welcoming my new path, experience, enjoyment. 2007 past with no so good and not so bad experience and examples but im sipping every bit of it. Bitter, sweetness, plain, salty, whatever. Taking everything for me to evaluate each and everyone.

I am thankful as all these are laid accordingly for me to understand and share amongst my friends, amongst colleagues, amongst sibllings and everyone. I smile, I cry, I laugh and most important I cry my heart out on every occassion I had.

Long journey was only to Bandung and Singapore. Short journey was minimize, very much outing with "R" and him but mostly with my kids. That is why my heart and life is filled nowadays.

Ok thats about me. This morning I had a chance to check out my boss personal item which has similiriaty in many things. Hahahaha monkeys... the only thing different is my position and her. While she is the metal monkey and I am the earth monkey.

Of course they share the same passion and likes but its just the pace of how she leads. I noted her range of handbags brands are mostly those I like, perfumes selection she boughts for her colleagues and clients, her favourite colours, her way of working, her way of talking.

Balenciaga, Guess, Renoma, Prada are the few numbers of range of handbags she had. Eh if i write more jealousy i would be because time being im stopping myself from buying all those to make sure i achieve my resolution this year.

I have so many targets this year and list of things to have like Clarks handbag & wedges, Dior Addict 2, Deep Reed Hugo, and so many more.

Working hard to achieve all with self dicipline. I minimize my social outings and allowing once a month for karaokeing, Picnics, movies with kids is still in the list.

I find I am harder than before. Where i can just smile and walk away with a statement which i think i should pass. Who was the person to affect me with the attitude???

It was me, because i allow the changes in me to benefit me more than other people. Judging? Let them.. I throw my anger and temper whenever i feel like. Not anymore keeping it in me or saving for a revenge which i never does.

I hope i can still keep bloging like i use to be.

Blogging again...

I have the itch to write. Its just i dont have time for it.



Life is so hectic this year once the school open. From early morning right up to midnite my chores are non stop. Sigh... Tired but still have to manage all for the sake of my love.



On the personal side its likely not to happen like what i want but then life goes and broadening my vision towards my career is a must this year.



Two of the executives left, one for better and the other to pursue her studies.

Sinar 2008

2007 past with so many memories. Kept, encapsulate everything. Passion to write is still there but the drive stuck. Don't ask why. Maybe I like to lay low. Grow old with time, become legend to certain things, become history to some people, become rott to some memories, become sweet to some page and become everything to anyone who loves to be there still.

So much to see, so much to write, so much to share. But no longer written in the form of text but in a form of smile. 2008 I am wishing for the best, wishing for the better, wishing for the good deal which some of it already felt, redeem and safe in the box of life.

Would love to open new year book with this note to share with all of you friends.

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan menyingkap tabir rahsia? Isteri yang kamu nikahi tidaklah semulia Khadijah, tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah, pun tidaklah setabah Fatimah. Justeru isterimu hanyalah wanita akhir zaman yang punya cita- cita menjadi solehah....

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama.Isteri menjadi tanah kamu langit penaungnya.Isteri ladang tanaman kamu pemagarnya.Isteri kiasan ternakan kamu gembalanya. Isteri adalah murid kamu mursyidnya.Isteri bagaikan anak kecil kamu tempat bermanjanya.Saat isteri menjadi madu kamu teguklah sepuasnya.

Seketika isteri menjadi racun kamulah penawar bisanya.Seandainya isteri tulang yang bengkok berhatilah meluruskannya. Pernikahan atau perkahwinan menginsafkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa.Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redha Allah s.w.t. kerana memiliki isteri yang tak sehebat mana. Justeru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa.Kamu bukanlah Rasulullah s.a.w.

Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamallahhuwajhah.Cuma suami akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi soleh... amin..! Untuk isteri.... renungkanlah. ...Pernikahan atau perkahwinan membuka tabir rahsia?Suami yang menikahi kamu tidaklah semulia Muhammad saw.Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim. Pun tidak setabah Ayyub Atau pun segagah Musa ... apalagi setampan Yusuf.

Justeru suamimu hanyalah lelaki akhir zaman yang punya cita-cita membangunkan keturunan yang soleh..Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama Suami menjadi pelindung kamu penghuninya.Suami adalah nahkoda kapal kamu pengemudinya.Suami bagaikan pelakon yang nakal kamu adalah penonton kenakalannya.

Saat suami menjadi raja kamu nikmati anggur singgahsananya. Seketika suami menjadi bisa kamulah penawar ubatnya.Seandainya suami bengis lagi lancang sabarlah memperingatkannya.Pernikahan ataupun perkahwinan mengajarkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa. Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redha Allah s.w.t. kerana memiliki suami yang tak segagah mana.Justeru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa.Kamu bukanlah Khadijah yang begitu sempurna dalam menjaga. Pun bukanlah Hajar yang begitu setia dalam sengsara .

Cuma wanita akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi solehah... amin!Justeru itu wahai para suami dan isteri,Jangan menuntut terlalu tinggi seandainya diri sendiri jelas tidak berupaya. Mengapa mendambakan isteri sehebat Khadijah andai diri tidak semulia Rasulullah? Mengapa mengharapkan suami setampan Yusof seandainya kasih tak setulus Zulaikha? Tidak perlu mencari isteri secantik Balqis andai diri tidak sehebat Sulaiman DAN Tidak perlu mencari suami seteguh Ibrahim andai diri tidak sekuat Hajar dan Sarah

Semuga kita dapat meraih intipati darinya. Yang baik darinya yang buruk itu dari kita jua

Morning Thoughts

When a guy is missing from your life can that change your life???

Courage and patient is the best key!!!

Morning Thoughts

Our senior research executive tendered her resignation early this month. The research executive planning to do her master in the next one two months.

We will be short of people again. But then since the management are not looking into the staff benefits how could the staff look into the management views.

Thats on careerwise. Next year ill be back to square one managing everything. But one thing clear I will not any longer nodded my head all the time should i want better justification.

Lets just see

Knowing your Personality

"The key quality of this scientific assessment is that it is objective.

Friends, and we ourselves, often have a wrong perception of our own personality - our perception is confused by the roles we have to play and expectations we need to meet.

Controlling birth

Health Sunday September 16, 2007


By Dr NOR ASHIKIN MOKHTAR
The Pill: what you need to know.

THE conception of a new life is a wonderful blessing. And thanks to scientific advances, women are now in control of when they conceive, so that the arrival of a baby comes at the right time in their lives.

I always stress the importance of using proper birth control methods to prevent unplanned pregnancies. One of the most common and easy-to-use methods of contraception is the birth control pill.

Although it is usually referred to as the Pill, there are actually many different types to suit women’s different needs.

What’s in the Pill?

If you have never taken birth control pills before, you may be unsure about what it is or how it works.

It is actually very simple: the Pill contains synthetic hormones that prevent the release of eggs from your ovaries. As sperm is unable to meet with the egg to fertilise it, you will not conceive.

There are two types of birth control pills: combination and progestin-only pills.There are two types of birth control pills: combination and progestin-only pills. Combination pills contain two types of hormones, which are oestrogen and progestin. Different brands of combination pills usually contain different types of progestin, but the same type of oestrogen.

Different brands also contain varying doses of the hormones. Discuss with your doctor or gynaecologist as to which is the most suitable pill for your cycle or needs.

There are some side-effects of taking birth control pills, but they are not serious and will go away on their own. They include mood changes, breast tenderness, sickness or vomiting, headaches, occasional water retention, and irregular vaginal bleeding.
Taking the Pill

You need to take the Pill every day for a cycle of 21 days. Then, there is a seven-day break in between cycles where you do not take the pill and you experience normal menstruation. Some pills are taken for 28 days straight, but during seven of those days, you take placebo pills instead.

It is important to take the pills at the same time every day, and without skipping any day in between. Ask your doctor what to do if you accidentally miss a day, as you are bound to forget once or twice!

Even though the Pill acts as birth control, it does not protect against HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). You can only prevent against these STDs by using condoms during intercourse.

When you should not take the Pill

Birth control pills are perfectly safe for most women. However, under rare circumstances, some women may have pre-existing conditions that make the Pill unsafe for them.
If you have a family history of venous thrombosis or pulmonary embolism, you may be at risk of developing blood clots. You should not take birth control pills because the hormones in the pill further increase your risk of getting blood clots in your legs or in your lungs.
However, if you do not have a family history of developing blood clots, then you do not need to worry.

Another concern is for women who smoke. As it is, smoking already increases your risk of having a stroke; but if you are over 35 and a smoker, then taking the Pill at the same time will lead to an even greater chance of a stroke.

I urge all women to stop smoking, of course, but particularly if you intend to start taking birth control pills.

This is why it’s important to get medical advice before starting on birth control pills, so that your gynaecologist can check out your medical history and health status.

Myths about the Pill

Some women are worried about the safety of birth control pills because they contain hormones. There are a few myths out there about the dangers of the Pill – but here are the real facts:

The Pill makes you gain weight

A lot of women worry about this, and I don’t blame them! But there is no scientific evidence to show that birth control pills cause weight gain. What may happen is that the hormones in the Pill cause water retention in your breasts, hips and thighs, causing a feeling of bloatedness. However, you are not gaining fat.

The Pill causes cancer

This is not true. But you’re probably worried about taking any form of hormones because some people say that oestrogen replacement treatment for post-menopause is linked to breast cancer. That’s a topic for another day, but for now, rest assured that the oestrogen in birth control pills are not linked to breast cancer.

In fact, combination birth control pills may even prevent cancers of the ovary and uterus. For instance, the Pill can reduce your lifetime risk of ovarian cancer by about 50%.

The Pill causes birth defects

Lots of women have accidentally taken birth control pills during the early part of their pregnancy because they were unaware that they were pregnant. However, this has not been shown to cause birth defects. But we still advise women not to take the Pill if they are, or suspect that they are pregnant.

You should take a break from the Pill every once in a while
No, you don’t have to. A woman can be on the Pill for more than 15 straight years without any known increased risk. There is no extra benefit in stopping the Pill for a “break” – in fact, there is only the risk of an unplanned pregnancy.

You shouldn’t take birth control pills if you’re over 40

You can continue to take birth control pills until you reach menopause. However, there are some conditions: you should be healthy, have normal blood pressure, not be at increased risk of heart attack or stroke, and be on the low-dose pills.

The Pill causes infertility

This is untrue. In fact, you will find that you can conceive as soon as you stop taking the Pill.
The final myth is that the Pill is bad for your health in general. But why would your gynaecologist prescribe you a pill that is harmful for you? Birth control pills are a smart and safe way to practise family planning.

They also have some added health benefits, such as reducing the risk of ovarian and uterine cancers, ovarian cysts, acne, excess facial and body hair, regulating menstrual flow and reducing menstrual cramps.

Datuk Dr Nor Ashikin Mokhtar is a consultant obstetrician & gynaecologist (FRCOG, UK). She is co chairman of Nur Sejahtera, Women & Family Healthcare Program, Ministry of Women, Family and Development. For further information, e-mail starhealth@thestar.com.my. The information provided is for educational and communication purposes only and it should not be construed as personal medical advice. Information published in this article is not intended to replace, supplant or augment a consultation with a health professional regarding the reader’s own medical care. The Star does not give any warranty on accuracy, completeness, functionality, usefulness or other assurances as to the content appearing in this column. The Star disclaims all responsibility for any losses, damage to property or personal injury suffered directly or indirectly from reliance on such information.

Sex and Menopause

Sex and menopause

About post-menopausal sexual dysfunction.

EVEN the most sexual of women may find their thoughts turning away from intimate relations with their husbands when they have to deal with some of the symptoms of menopause.
Take Rita, 51, a woman who enjoyed a healthy sex life with her husband and liked what she saw when she looked into the mirror until she started experiencing the hot flushes, night sweats and mood swings that are symptomatic of menopause.

“How can you expect me to feel sexy and want to have sex when I’m uncomfortable all the time?” she complained constantly.

Rita is typical of many post-menopausal women in that her symptoms have had an effect on her quality of life as well as interest in sex.

Australian sex therapist and relationship counsellor Dr Rosie King said: “You can’t blame women for not feeling sexy at that point as they are likely to suffer from pain-in-the-neck symptoms such as mood swings, night sweats, hot flushes as well as insomnia.

“The drop in oestrogen levels can also affect the genitals as women experience a thinning of the lining of the vagina. As a result of this, the vagina may become dry and fragile, making sex painful,” she said.

Menopause does not have to translate to the end of a healthy sex life. “Women who take hormonal replacement therapy (HRT) can enjoy a better sex life. HRT is very effective in improving the health of the vagina and it increases lubrication as well,” said Dr King.
Sensitivity to your partner’s needs would increase a interest in sex. “Women need an average of 15 to 20 minutes to become aroused and older women need even more time. Her sexual responses slow down and her orgasm is less intense, but a man can help to increase her urge to merge.

“He should attempt to learn what turns her on. He should spend more time talking to her or hugging her. Buy her flowers and spend quality time with her. These are typical female sexual enhancers and may increase a woman’s interest in sex,” Dr King said.

Dr King added that other factors could affect an interest in sex in post-menopausal women.
“There is an association between depression and menopause, for instance. This could be related to the ‘‘empty nest’’ syndrome. This is usually the period in her life when the children have left home. All she has left is her husband.

“Many women become depressed as a result of the children growing up and going away and there is no doubt that depression is an inhibitor of sexual response,’’ she said, adding that treatment for depression also tends to inhibit sexual desire and arousal.

Ignorance can also be a factor in female sexual dysfunction in menopausal women, Dr King said. “Some women don’t understand what’s happening to their bodies and that it is a natural part of ageing. They blame themselves or their partners for what is happening. This, of course, tends to affect sexual function,” she said.

To prevent this from happening, Dr King recommends that women seek treatment. “Menopause is a time of great transition for women and it is crucial that they seek treatment if they exhibit symptoms. Be aware that help is available,” she said.

She added: “Husbands need to be patient and understanding even if their wives are irritable and forgetful. While he may never understand what his wife is going through, he should realise that these are the effects of the hormonal transition that his wife is experiencing.’’
Worrying about one’s sexual performance tends to be a factor for pre-menopausal and menopausal women.

The Pfizer Global Better Sex Survey (GBSS) indicates that 48% of Malaysian women aged between 45 and 54 and 22% of women aged between 55 and 64 worry about losing their ability to perform sexually as they and their partners grow older.

While their fears may be justified, Dr King is quick to point out that menopause doesn’t necessarily have to be a traumatic experience.

“For some women, it’s a liberating experience as they have said goodbye to period pain and worries about contraception. The good news is that some women actually enjoy sex more because they feel totally free of these worries,” she said.

This article is courtesy of Pfizer. For more information, log on to www.menshealth.com.my

Golden Relationships

Very nice article found while looking for another article online ;)


Health
Sunday September 30, 2007

WOMEN'S WORLDBy Dr NOR ASHIKIN MOKHTAR

Getting older does not mean that you lose interest in sex.
CAN you believe that in the 18th and 19th century, people only lived to their 20s or 30s? Today, people in Malaysia can expect to live up to at least 70, and many even live up to the ripe old age of 80 or 90!

Now that we are living longer, there are many aspects of our lives that we want to maintain in the golden years.

We want to continue to be healthy, fit, independent and alert so that we can look forward to the years ahead, rather than dread them.

First, let’s get rid of the myth that older people can’t have a sex life. Whoever said that only younger people enjoy sex? You can lose your hair and some parts of your body may start drooping, but you will never lose the need for affection, intimacy and emotional closeness.
For some people, sex in the golden years is far better than what they experienced when they were younger. For one, you and your partner have gone through a lot together, and you know each other in ways that younger couples have not achieved. – AP

It’s not easy for the older generation to accept this. If you’re a baby boomer, you would have grown up in an era where female sexual desire was never discussed. And to talk about sex in your old age?why, that’s just scandalous!

In this article, I hope to overcome these taboos and help women realise that sex can be just as good, if not better, in the golden years.

Where have all the hormones gone?

If you feel that growing older has made you lose interest in sex, you’re not alone. About 40% of women report a drop in desire during menopause, and say that they have fewer sexual fantasies, thoughts, and desires, and are not as receptive to sexual activity.
There’s no denying that a woman’s body changes as she ages. After menopause, the female sex hormones, oestrogen and progesterone, will drop and cause some physical changes that affect sexual intercourse.

It will take longer for your vagina to swell and lubricate when you’re sexually aroused. This can make intercourse less comfortable or even painful.
You might also feel a burning sensation during vaginal penetration or discover vaginal bleeding afterward.

The reduction in sex hormones will also cause less blood to flow to the clitoris and the genitals to become less sensitive.

After menopause, your body will also produce less testosterone (yes, women have some testosterone in their bodies too), and this leads to a lower sex drive. Sometimes, it’s the menopausal symptoms like hot flushes, insomnia and mood swings that interfere with the sex drive.

But it’s not just about the hormones. For most women, sexual desire doesn’t necessarily begin with a desire for sex. What women want is intimacy and closeness with the person they love, which then leads to sexual desire.

At this age, you may also be facing some medical problems like a chronic disease, chronic pain, surgery or an illness that causes fatigue. All these, while not affecting your sex drive directly, can make you feel like sex is the last thing on your mind.

You may also be taking medications that interfere with sexual function.
Some high blood pressure medications reduce desire and vaginal lubrication in women, while some antihistamines, antidepressants and acid-blocking drugs can affect sexual function.
These medications are very important for you, but you can talk to your doctor about how they are affecting your sexual function, and how you can minimise those effects.

But I’m wrinkly and saggy ...
The biggest stumbling block to regaining your sexual desire is your mind. You’re probably thinking about how much less attractive or energetic you are, or how you may not be as good in bed anymore. All this worrying can trigger a lack of desire and make it a lot harder for you to become aroused.

Instead of focusing on the negative aspects, think about the fact that your partner is just as grey, wrinkly and saggy as you are (or will be one day)! What’s more important than the physical aspects is the life experiences that you have both shared over the years.
And don’t forget that men can be just as insecure as women – your partner may be having these fears about himself as well, so you have to reassure him that you still find him sexually attractive.

What can be done to treat it?

Does medical science have any answers to improve sexual desire for older women? There are some therapies available, for instance water-based lubricants (such as K-Y jelly) can make sex less painful or uncomfortable.

Hormone therapy for menopause may help to improve symptoms of hot flushes and vaginal dryness, thus improving sexual desire.

Sometimes, all it takes is some longer foreplay to stimulate your natural lubrication – and you have all the time in the world now without kids or work to worry about!
Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about this problem. Your family doctor or a sex therapist can offer advice about your relationship as well as new sexual techniques to try.
Most importantly, you and your partner need to talk to each other. He needs to understand the physical and psychological changes that you’re going through, and you need to understand him as well.

Together, you can decide how to regain your sex live without causing each other pain or discomfort.

The best time to be together

For some people, sex in the golden years is far better than what they experienced when they were younger. For one, you and your partner have gone through a lot together, and you know each other in ways that younger couples have not achieved.
As you get older, there’s no longer the need to worry about careers, children, household duties and contraception! And even if you do not have intercourse, you can still be intimate with each other by hugging, holding hands, giving massages, and foot rubs.
Sex shouldn’t be taboo for older people – it is a gift to be enjoyed between you and your loved one.

Datuk Dr Nor Ashikin Mokhtar is a consultant obstetrician & gynaecologist (FRCOG, UK). She is co chairman of Nur Sejahtera, Women & Family Healthcare Program, Ministry of Women, Family and Development. For further information, e-mail starhealth@thestar.com.my. The information provided is for educational and communication purposes only and it should not be construed as personal medical advice. Information published in this article is not intended to replace, supplant or augment a consultation with a health professional regarding the reader’s own medical care. The Star does not give any warranty on accuracy, completeness, functionality, usefulness or other assurances as to the content appearing in this column. The Star disclaims all responsibility for any losses, damage to property or personal injury suffered directly or indirectly from reliance on such information.

Datuk Dr Nor Ashikin Mokhtar is a consultant obstetrician & gynaecologist (FRCOG, UK). She is co chairman of Nur Sejahtera, Women & Family Healthcare Program, Ministry of Women, Family and Development. For further information, e-mail starhealth@thestar.com.my. The information provided is for educational and communication purposes only and it should not be construed as personal medical advice. Information published in this article is not intended to replace, supplant or augment a consultation with a health professional regarding the reader’s own medical care. The Star does not give any warranty on accuracy, completeness, functionality, usefulness or other assurances as to the content appearing in this column. The Star disclaims all responsibility for any losses, damage to property or personal injury suffered directly or indirectly from reliance on such information.